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Match.com Review

I have to say that while on match I made some observations regarding dating and racial preference. Before I address this I will give an honest review of the site itself. Overall I like match.com. One feature that I really like that I havent seen on the other sites I tried was something called “stir events.” Stir events are events where singles in your area can attend and they are exclusive for paying members. Sometimes the events do get sold out quickly because they are quite appealing. For example I came across two events, one being rock climbing and the other being a mixer at a bar. I think this is a great feature because it encourages safe meeting places and actually gives members great dating ideas that are already set up. Some can be a little pricey but some events are actually reasonably priced, so for that I give match.com a thumbs up. On match.com you can have a free membership but it does not allow you to communicate with other members you will just get notifications that someone has written to you or that someone may be interested, so a paid subscription is recommended. Match.com is $35 a month, $59.97 for 3 months (20 per month) and $101.94 for 6 months ($16.99 per month). This isn’t too bad especially if you decide to do a longer subscription. At first the thought of paying for a dating site was absurd to me but then I realized that the quality was actually better on some paid sites. When you think about it, it makes sense; someone who is very serious about finding someone will be more willing to pay a fee to do so and so there is a higher chance you will find someone who is just as serious as you are and not just looking for a simple hook up. Match sends you daily matches everyday of which they share certain profile similarities with you. I think that this is kind of cool because then the chances are higher that you will see someone you favor. One feature that Match does not have is an instant messenger feature. While this is true they do have a matchphone feature which allows you to accept call requests, text and call. While I really do like match’s features, as an African-American woman I felt this site was not the best choice. This has more to do with its members. I found that while browsing a lot of men listed their racial preference and almost none of the men, including Black men did not have black women listed as a preference. I found it harder to get replies and messages because of this and I did not like that. While this is not the site’s fault there are a lot of men on this site that do not prefer women of color so for African-American women I would suggest a different site. While reading online I noticed that on many sites black women have less of a chance of being notified than other women which is probably due to the negative stereotypes that bombard society, but even so it upset me. Overall I would recommend match.com but not for African-American women based on my own experience, but everyone’s experience may be different.

Pros:

-Stir events (love love love this feature)

-matchphone

-daily matches

has a match.com phone app
lets you send winks, and favorite profiles
lets you see who is viewing your profile
provides a good amount of matches

Cons:

-no instant messenger feature

events can be a little pricey

Plentyoffish.com Review

Out of all the dating sites that I have reviewed this site is my least favorite. While this site has the most users ranging in 30 million this leaves room for a lot of creepers and fake profiles. While I am not a huge fan of this site if you live in an area that is not that popular and other sites dont provide you with enough matches to choose from I would recommend plentyoffish because there are so many member profiles. On this site there is no matching questions and no daily matches. There are no questions or indepth matching system that would allow you to see any compatibility capabilities. This site does have instant messenging and you can turn it off at anytime. Beware of fake profiles as there are many on this site. Also due to the high volume of profiles there are many profiles that are inactive with members who have not signed in in over a year time span. Also I have realized that on the quality of matches on this site is not as high as other sites because there are more people on here looking for a quick hook up. If you are not looking for a long term commitment then this site is probably a better option because people can list if they want something, long term, or short term. This allows you to know exactly what members are looking for so that you can be on the same page, which is kind of nice. At times it is hard to tell if you and someone else is on the same page so this feature gives you that information.

Pros:

-Over 30 million users

-Instant messenger feature

-Phone app

Cons:

-No matching system

Many fake profiles/creepers
many inactive profiles
very basic website

So you were dating this amazing guy and you decided to not date any other guys while seeing him, but now he has moved on and left you high and dry for the next chick faster than you can say, “but baby why”. And now you are wondering what you did wrong. How can you fix it? etc This is a requested topic. A friend of mine wanted to know my thoughts on dating different men at the same and for the sake of the request I will keep it gender specific but what I have to say applies to both men and women and all types of dating relationships. No one is exempt lol. My thoughts are simple… I don’t think there is anything wrong with dating more than one guy at the same time, and when I say dating I do not mean being in a committed relationship, i mean simply that, “dating”.

Most guys date women simultaneously. It is called playing the field. Getting to know different people and feeling them out before you make a decision to commit. When a guy does it, it is seen as keeping his options open but sometimes when a woman does it she is seen as loose or not desirable. That is complete and utter bull*** and a double standard that i do not endorse. I think that women should play the field and get to know different guys within reason. Dating is time consuming and sometimes costly if you have to pay to get to the person etc so choose who you date wisely. Also if you do date other men, when one decides to dip on you it will be easier to deal with because you have other options. If a guy has his options open I do not see why you can’t have your options open as well.

While I think it is okay to date other guys at the same time I think that it is important that you inform the guys that you are dating that you are dating or talking to other people. I don’t think its cool to keep that information from someone you are seeing, they have a right to know that. Also there is absolutely nothing wrong with just seeing one person at a time. Some people like to do that because they like to just focus on one person at a time but make sure you know where the other person stands on this as well so that if they are seeing other people, you know. You shouldn’t choose to see other people out of spite, do it simply because you want to. Here is the tricky part, while i think it is okay to date or talk to different guys at the same time I don’t think a woman should be having sex with all of the men she is seeing. This puts you at risk for getting a disease or getting pregnant. I think if you do choose to take it to that level that is when you should decide on one person that you are intimate with in order to keep yourself safe. While dating other guys is a good way to really figure out what you want and meet new people there is always a possibility that a guy that you really like can hurt you and that is why it is so important to love yourself and be comfortable in your own skin before you date. If you don’t love yourself the moment a guy disappears you will be so distraught and feel like you’ve lost everything when in reality you didn’t lose much just a guy who isnt the one.

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