Tag: Facebook

Stop Texting me, no seriously

Posted on by Kisses

So it’s 2012 and everybody and their mama is texting. This is the age of textaholicism. While I think texting is a good way to communicate when you are unable to speak I do not think it should be the ONLY way to speak. I am so tired of people telling me that the person they are talking to doesn’t “like” to talk on the phone and just likes to text. I think that is straight BULL. I don’t mean to be harsh but maybe he or she just doesn’t like to talk to you on the phone.

Actually if I meet a guy and he tells me that he doesn’t talk on the phone and he only texts I am automatically turned off because communication is very key to me. I have no problem talking on the phone, in fact I prefer to talk on the phone over texting, but there are sometimes when it is just better for me to text because I am unable to talk. And while I like to talk on the phone I don’t like to talk all day, I have a life. I like to talk to the person I am seeing at least once a day, whether it is via text or phone just to check in, but I refuse to text every single thing. I am not dating a phone and I would like to actually hear the person’s voice sometime since I probably won’t get to see them all the time.

Also I absolutely hate when someone texts me a ridiculously long text about something serious. I understand if it is a dire situation and you are unable to call and you need me right away, but if I know you can indeed call me and you just decided to send me a 7 page novel about how you are so in love with me, chances are I am not even going to respond. WHAT ARE YOU DOING??? Just call me, or tell me in person. A little more direct contact goes a long way. In a relationship communication in all avenues is important so I personally think that if someone only texts you and does not call, you might want to reevaluate that relationship,….unless this is a person you happen to see so often that you don’t even need to talk on the phone. And also if what you are telling me amounts to 7 text messages chances are its probably better said on the phone because it probably requires a long response back.

I feel like if someone is really interested in you they will have no problem picking up the phone and talking to you even if it is for a few minutes. And to be honest the people that tell me they are not phone people are usually people that can’t hold conversations or people that have come encounter with people that can’t hold conversations so they don’t want to be on the phone. No one wants to be on the phone when you’re sitting there in complete silence. Find a more interesting person –you might change your mind. Honestly if I don’t find a guy interesting enough to have a whole conversation on the phone with (not a 5 minute convo) chances are I am probably not going to want to waste my time texting him either, but that’s just me. What are your thoughts? email me, send me a question or a topic you want me to write about at iwantmykissesback@gmail.com and don’t forget to follow me on twitter- www.twitter.com/iwantmykisses
Thanks for reading

Kisses xoxo

Facebook Relationship Mistakes 101

Posted on by Kisses
Okay there are sooo many things I can say about facebook and relationships but for the sake of not writing a novel I will spare you, but I will briefly discuss. A lot of times I hear people say that Facebook messed up their relationship and blah blah blah. NO!! YOU MESSED UP YOUR RELATIONSHIP, not a free social networking website YOU YOU YOU. Okay sorry that was a little dramatic, especially since I am not talking to you persay, just those who are indeed guilty of this lol, but I had to make a point. If you allow a social network or the people on them to destroy your relationship then honestly was it really that strong of a relationship to begin with?? And honestly there are so many mistakes or things I see on facebook that people do. For one, this is how I feel about FB- STFU. Yes simply that. While I think that facebook is a great way to network and to keep in touch with friends and family, I also think it is seriously getting in the way of actual interaction among the human race outside of the digital world and therefore changing the context of relationships.
1)      To status or not status, Should you put your relationships status on fb? A lot of people and even I am guilty of not putting my relationship status on fb with the argument that too many people are nosey and up in my business blah blah.  The truth of the matter is it shouldn’t matter if the world knows who you are dating or if you are in a relationship, because if you truly care about that person then you wouldn’t need them to be a secret. Now if both parties don’t feel the need to even put their status on fb then that is fine, but I am not a fan of one party putting their status up and the other claiming they are single, it just seems sketch.
2)      Putting that you are in a relationship with your best friend (ladies this is for you)- I just think it’s unnecessary
3)      TMI- stop putting your entire life on fb in your statuses, I hate to say it but it’s just not cool. It’s like having a diary and posting it on the internet for the whole world to see. Keep personal things personal. Do not announce to the fb world that you and your significant other are having a fight and that you are sorry or not sorry at all—I guarantee your relationship will suffer or disintegrate—this happened to me- an ex put our business all on fb—-bye bye relationship, needless to say that was a dumb move…
4)      Don’t spam your significant others page a million times just because you want to show to the world that you are a part of their world or that you miss them. I see nothing wrong with a few comments here and there but don’t fill up their wall, it makes you look clingy and if you are truly dating this person you have other avenues of contacting them such as via in person, phone calls and texts.
5)      If you have to find out about your significant other’s life via facebook, please re-evaluate your relationship….no seriously. If you have to find out where your significant other is by looking on fb and seeing where they checked in or etc… that’s a problem, because to me it would seem as if your significant other was in a relationship with fb and not you…….a.k.a not cool.
6)      Erasing comments- if your significant other is erasing your comments and they are normal comments like, “I miss you”, or “hey baby” then clearly something sketch is going on. I remember that stuff in the MySpace days- when people would trip out about not being in someone’s top 8—–smh

Fellas she’s just not that into if……

Posted on by Kisses
Hey guys so I thought that this would be a good topic to blog about. In my opinion and in the opinion of some people I know these are some factors that I think let a guy and a girl know if someone is into them or not. Clearly there are exceptions to some of these, and feel free to add to the list in a comment or email me at iwantmykissesback@gmail.com J Thanks for reading. Btw this is in reference to being interested in dating someone, and not simply sleeping with someone…just to clarify.
Fellas she’s just not that into you if:
-She doesn’t care if you call her or text
-If she only calls you once a week or less
-She avoids your calls or texts
-She brings her friends or etc in order to avoid intimate settings
-If she doesn’t make time for you
-She cancels on you more than once
-Every time you Im her on fb chat- she coincidently signs off
-If she says she’s not a phone person, and never talks to you on the phone
-If she disappears periodically
-If she is still seeing other people after 3 months of “dating”
-If her friends know nothing about you
-If she won’t accept your friend request on facebook
-If she doesn’t poke you back on facebook (lol)
Ladies don’t think I forgot about you……He’s just not that into you if:
-He doesn’t call you or text
-If he doesn’t return your calls/or if he ignores them
-If he never wants to take you out
-If he only hits you up during booty call hours (after 12- there are some exceptions)
-If he only wants to chill at his house all the time
-If he doesn’t make time for you
-If he doesn’t incorporate you in future plans
-If he disappears periodically
-If his friends know nothing about you- and you haven’t met them
-If his family knows nothing about you- depending on timing of course
-If he says he’s not a phone person and never calls
-If he is still seeing other people after 3 months of “dating”
-If he says he “doesn’t know what he wants”
I am sure I probably missed a few, so feel free to add to this list. At the end of the day you deserve to be with someone who wants to put in the effort to actually really get to know you as a person and show you who they are. If you do want a relationship, and a person isn’t really into you or into putting in an effort to build something, why waste your time?
xoxo Kisses J