December 10, 2012 - I Want My Kisses Back

5 Unique Ways To Heal after a Breakup

Posted on December 10, 2012November 12, 2013 by Kisses

5 Unique Ways To Heal after a BreakUp:

I know what it is like to go through a break up in this article I have listed 5 unique ways to get over a breakup. I have heard many cliché ways on how to get over a breakup but I think it’s time to reinvent yourself…literally. Hope you like:

1- Go Salsa dancing, I am so serious, it is so fun and really opens you up. You dance with strangers who are just looking to have a goodtime and not worry about the pain from their past. Try it out

2- Watch, “Everybody Loves Raymond and the “King of Queens”- if this doesn’t make you laugh till your belly hurts, then I don’t know what to tell you lol. Seriously try it out

3-Buy an outfit that makes you feel sexy- it will really make you feel great about yourself and then you can look at yourself in the mirror and realize you are so much better without them : )

4- Go to an amusement park and get a sundae, I love amusement parks and well they make me happy- try it out

5- Go on vacation with some friends and realize the world is so much more than a broken relationship. Sometimes people are only there to teach you one thing, we mess up when we confuse seasonal people with lifetime people. Accept the universe and party like it’s 1999 or just do all the things that make you happy and smile.

Thanks for Reading

-Kisses

5 signs your significant other is in it for the long haul

Posted on December 10, 2012November 12, 2013 by Kisses

5 signs your significant other is in it for the long haul:

So you’ve been dating your significant other for a little bit of time now and maybe your not so sure where the relationship is going. Or maybe you just want to make sure this isn’t just another fling. Here are some signs that definitely show that your significant other is in it for the long haul:

You have met the friends and family. I cannot stress this one enough. If someone is really into you and they want things to work long term they are going to want you to meet the most important people in their lives, whether it be family or friends. I know if I met the guy of my dreams and we were seeing each other I would definitely introduce him to my family, and I rarely do that, so If I do introduce a guy it means its serious.

You are a part of their long term plans. Does he or she mention your name when they talk about where they see themselves in a year or future endeavors. If someone incorporates you into their future life that hasnt even occurred yet, chances are they are taking you and your relationship pretty seriously.

If both of you are comfortable with talking about marriage or living together then chances are you guys are open to long haul capabilities. : )

He or she doesn’t flirt with anyone but you, and only has eyes for you. When you are together it’s like no one else is in the room, and when you are not together they make it known that you are a part of their life.
If their coworkers know about you, that means they talk about you and they don’t want you to go anywhere.

I hope you guys enjoyed!! Have anymore signs to add, send them to iwantmykissesback@gmail.com

Thanks for reading guys!!

3 Ways to Keep Him Interested

Posted on December 10, 2012November 12, 2013 by Kisses

3 Ways to Keep Him Interested

Sometimes after being in a relationship for a long time things can get repetitive and monoutous. And sometimes men lose interest. Here are some things that you can do to keep him interested or keep the relationship alive.

1) Surprise him. Guys love when you change it up. Unpredictability is sexy. For example: Create a romantic setting/sexy occasion, cook him dinner one day, send him a sexy gift, write him a song, and do it all just because- this will keep definitely keep him interested, guys like mystery, but not too much.

2) Give him time to miss you. Now I am not an advocate for games in which you wait 2/3 days to call, but I think it is always nice to spend time doing stuff with your friends and for yourself and then coming back to your significant other. Distance definitely makes the heart goes fonder.

3) Take him out somewhere different that you haven’t gone too, or some place that you don’t normally go. For example: a broadway play, a live show, a concert, laser tag, beach, picnic, fireworks, exotic cuisine. Or even surprise him with two tickets to his favorite basketball team’s game etc – he will love that you care enough about his interests and not just your own

3 Ways to Keep Her Interested

Posted on December 10, 2012November 12, 2013 by Kisses

3 Ways to Keep Her Interested

Sometimes after being in a relationship for a long time things can get repetitive and monoutous. And sometimes women lose interest. Here are some things that you can do to keep her interested or keep the relationship alive.

Surprise her. I cannot stress this enough, women love surprises and even if they say they don’t they do. But it has to be a well thought out surprise. For example: cook her dinner one day, send flowers to her job, write her a song, and do it all just because- this will keep definitely keep her interested, in fact she might be smitten
Give her time to miss you. Now I am not an advocate for games in which you wait 2/3 days to call, but I think it is always nice to spend time doing stuff with your friends and for yourself and then coming back to your significant other. Distance definitely makes the heart goes fonder.
Take her out somewhere different that you haven’t gone too, or some place that you don’t normally go. For example: a broadway play, a live show, a concert, laser tag, beach, picnic, fireworks, exotic cuisine

Make Time or End it

Posted on December 10, 2012November 12, 2013 by Kisses

Make Time or End it….

One thing I cannot stand are excuses. When it comes to a relationship there is no such thing as too busy and anyone who tells you different is lying. I was able to maintain a relationship while being a double major in college, a resident assistant, in a choir, and in other school activies at the same exact time. I always make time for those who are important to me and if your significant other is not making time for you or making efforts to do so it is time to end your relationship. I have seen people within long distance relationships make time for someone they love who aren’t even around so there is no excuse for making the time. A relationship is all about compromise and circumstance and if you cannot do either one even if you work crazy hours or have many obligations then you do not belong in a relationship. If when it comes to your relationship you have to think hard about squeezing in 30 minutes just to hear your significant other’s voice then your relationship is doomed and you should really prioritize your schedule or walk away. It is as simple as that. Make time or End it because no one wants to come 3^rd or 4^th place in your list of priorities and if you value what you have with someone you will work hard to maintain it. One song that comes to mind when I think of making time in a relationship is the classic 702 song entitled, “Make Time.” I love this song and you should definetely check it out. Please send me your opinions and your feedback. Have you ever been in relationship in which you just didnt have the time or your significant other just wouldnt make time for you? How did that make you feel and did you do anything to resolve the issue. I would love to here from you and Thanks for reading.

-Kisses

“TO DTR OR TO NOT DTR?”

Posted on December 10, 2012November 12, 2013 by Kisses

For those of you reading this wondering what the hell am I talking about, let me first define the acronym DTR. DTR stands for………: define the relationship. For those of you that watch “Awkward” on MTV (an awesome show) you already knew that but for those of you that haven’t seen the show, I think you should watch it lol. But anywho that is not what this article is about. I want talk about when you should define a relationship and when you shouldn’t. A lot of people say, “I hate labels and why complicate things”, but I think you complicate things when you don’t even know what things are. And the moment you start having guidelines and rules for what is and isn’t okay you are already defining what it is you are doing within itself, so why not DTR? I’ll tell you why, if the person you are “talking” to isn’t treating you right then chances are in a relationship they won’t treat you much better. I mean of course if you aren’t someone’s official significant other you might not experience the full benefits of girlfriend or boyfriend status but you should have an idea of what’s to come. Honestly, in the words of Maya Angelou, “if a person shows you who they are, believe them.” If someone lies to you in the beginning, that’s a bad sign. I believe in second chances but I also believe in honesty. Relationships require just that, honesty and if you don’t start on a strong foundation how on earth will you last? You won’t, simple as that. And a small lie can become a big lie, and a small lie makes me think, “why did he feel he had to lie about that”. In fact it makes me feel like that person doesn’t trust me, and you absolutely cannot have a relationship without trust. So my point is at this point is if you and your current interest are not fully honest with each other and do not fully trust each other do not DTF, or for better words do not get into a relationship. In fact walk away if it’s been awhile and you are still unsure. Love is a lot of things, but one thing it is definitely not, is unsure. Which leads to my next point, are you comfortable with each other? And this is after being comfortable fully with yourself. Do you guys feel comfortable enough around each other to just open up, and be yourselves? If the answer is no, or I am not there yet, you are probably not ready to DTR. Also be true to yourself, if what you are involved in is a fling then make sure both parties are aware of that, so no one gets hurt. The worst thing is to think your in a serious relationship with someone and then to find out that in fact they are seeing other people and not claiming you. If anything you should probably always define the nature of your relationship. But when it comes to actually officially deciding on when you should be in a relationship that’s when you have to take into account a lot of different things such as;

honesty, trust, openness, level of comfort, are you a secret? Are you just in it for the physical? All of these things play an important role in DTR’ing lol. Thanks for reading guys

Kisses

Going the distance

Posted on December 10, 2012November 12, 2013 by Kisses

Going the distance:

There is no doubt about it that long distance relationships are no easy feat. In fact they take a lot of energy and effort so it’s only natural to feel apprehensive about choosing to “go the distance.” I have to admit after having being in a few long distance relationships I had deemed them not for me and had conformed to a “JUST SAY NO” policy, but after research and talking to a few people currently in long distance relationships I have pulled a 360 and have changed my mind. If you are considering starting a long distance relationship with someone I think it is important to know what you and your interest long term and short term goals. This is extremely important. Here are some pros and cons when considering a long distance relationship:

Pros:

-You get to know a person on a more personal level without relying heavily on physical interaction. In fact circumstance causes you to really dig deep and know a person’s true character which actually takes longer when you are in close proximity. When you are constantly videoing chatting or on the phone with a person it forces you to open up eventually and know all those things that really matter within a relationship

You can maintain your own individuality and use your time to be very productive.
It forces you to incorporate unique ways to express how you feel since you are not always together
It requires a lot of determination and devotion so it can create a very solid foundation and you can insure that the person you are with is really into you.
After long periods without seeing your significant other it will feel like heaven on earth and you will really cherish the times that you share together
You become very comfortable with a person without having to deal with physical tempations that can really interfere with truly knowing if you are compatible with a person for who they are and not just what they look like.
You have to develop a huge level of trust because you are not in the same area and without it, it can cause a huge strain.

Cons:

It really sucks not seeing the person you care about for long periods of time. Sometimes you want more than a phone call or video chat, which is very normal.
It takes a lot of time and energy but so does any relationship
Depending on your visiting schedules and locations it can be costly, so make sure the person you choose is worth it
You can feel lonely at times

I am currently in a long distance relationship and while it is hard not seeing my boyfriend for long periods of time, I have never been happier and the times we do share together mean that much more. I feel I know him very well and that I am getting to know him on a much deeper level than I ever was with any of my other local relationships which as helped us grow a very deep bond and helps us to grow together everyday. I felt my boyfriend was worth it so I decided to go the distance, make sure to really weight the pros and cons before you do so. While long distance relationships are not for everyone it can lead to a very wonderful relationship in which you and your partner are in the same location one day. Thanks for reading. Please send me your long distance relationship stories, I would love to hear about them.

Kisses

Plentyoffish.com Review

Posted on December 10, 2012November 12, 2013 by Kisses

Plentyoffish.com Review

Out of all the dating sites that I have reviewed this site is my least favorite. While this site has the most users ranging in 30 million this leaves room for a lot of creepers and fake profiles. While I am not a huge fan of this site if you live in an area that is not that popular and other sites dont provide you with enough matches to choose from I would recommend plentyoffish because there are so many member profiles. On this site there is no matching questions and no daily matches. There are no questions or indepth matching system that would allow you to see any compatibility capabilities. This site does have instant messenging and you can turn it off at anytime. Beware of fake profiles as there are many on this site. Also due to the high volume of profiles there are many profiles that are inactive with members who have not signed in in over a year time span. Also I have realized that on the quality of matches on this site is not as high as other sites because there are more people on here looking for a quick hook up. If you are not looking for a long term commitment then this site is probably a better option because people can list if they want something, long term, or short term. This allows you to know exactly what members are looking for so that you can be on the same page, which is kind of nice. At times it is hard to tell if you and someone else is on the same page so this feature gives you that information.

Pros:

-Over 30 million users

-Instant messenger feature

-Phone app

Cons:

-No matching system

Many fake profiles/creepers
many inactive profiles
very basic website

Match.com Review

Posted on December 10, 2012November 12, 2013 by Kisses

Match.com Review

I have to say that while on match I made some observations regarding dating and racial preference. Before I address this I will give an honest review of the site itself. Overall I like match.com. One feature that I really like that I havent seen on the other sites I tried was something called “stir events.” Stir events are events where singles in your area can attend and they are exclusive for paying members. Sometimes the events do get sold out quickly because they are quite appealing. For example I came across two events, one being rock climbing and the other being a mixer at a bar. I think this is a great feature because it encourages safe meeting places and actually gives members great dating ideas that are already set up. Some can be a little pricey but some events are actually reasonably priced, so for that I give match.com a thumbs up. On match.com you can have a free membership but it does not allow you to communicate with other members you will just get notifications that someone has written to you or that someone may be interested, so a paid subscription is recommended. Match.com is $35 a month, $59.97 for 3 months (20 per month) and $101.94 for 6 months ($16.99 per month). This isn’t too bad especially if you decide to do a longer subscription. At first the thought of paying for a dating site was absurd to me but then I realized that the quality was actually better on some paid sites. When you think about it, it makes sense; someone who is very serious about finding someone will be more willing to pay a fee to do so and so there is a higher chance you will find someone who is just as serious as you are and not just looking for a simple hook up. Match sends you daily matches everyday of which they share certain profile similarities with you. I think that this is kind of cool because then the chances are higher that you will see someone you favor. One feature that Match does not have is an instant messenger feature. While this is true they do have a matchphone feature which allows you to accept call requests, text and call. While I really do like match’s features, as an African-American woman I felt this site was not the best choice. This has more to do with its members. I found that while browsing a lot of men listed their racial preference and almost none of the men, including Black men did not have black women listed as a preference. I found it harder to get replies and messages because of this and I did not like that. While this is not the site’s fault there are a lot of men on this site that do not prefer women of color so for African-American women I would suggest a different site. While reading online I noticed that on many sites black women have less of a chance of being notified than other women which is probably due to the negative stereotypes that bombard society, but even so it upset me. Overall I would recommend match.com but not for African-American women based on my own experience, but everyone’s experience may be different.

Pros:

-Stir events (love love love this feature)

-matchphone

-daily matches

has a match.com phone app
lets you send winks, and favorite profiles
lets you see who is viewing your profile
provides a good amount of matches

Cons:

-no instant messenger feature

events can be a little pricey

Plentyoffish.com Review

Pros:

-Over 30 million users

-Instant messenger feature

-Phone app

Cons:

-No matching system

Many fake profiles/creepers
many inactive profiles
very basic website

BlackPeopleMeet Review

Posted on December 10, 2012November 12, 2013 by Kisses

BlackPeopleMeet.com Review:

If you are looking for a site that is more specific then I would suggest BlackPeopleMeet. I personally do not have a racial preference when it comes to dating but I wanted to try this site out and see what it was about. I did notice that on this website there were people of different cultural backgrounds all throughout. While this website does have a fee it is on the cheaper side when it comes to paid dating sites. You can have a free membership but you will only be able to send flirts and no messages or any other forms of communication, so a paid subscription is recommended. I paid $13.00 for one month and I believe for a 3 month subscription it was about $43.00 which is not that bad compared to other paid sites. Economically this is a good choice if you are trying to meet other African-American singles in your area. One thing I will say is be careful when choosing what kind of subscription you want. I clicked a one month subscription and somehow received three months. Since I knew I wanted to review this site for you guys I decided just to keep it and not contact them, but this is just an fyi. I am going to list below Pros and Cons for this website:

Pros:

-There are a lot of different matches to choose from

-You can send flirts

-There is a live chat feature
– There are daily matches

-They include dating tips and success stories

Cons:

-There are some creepers and sometimes I got messages that were clearly copy and pasted several times

You cannot really search based on personal interest so you have to really get to know a person first or read their page in order to see compatibility
There is no match system that uses actual interest and moral beliefs etc
There is no phone app so it is very hard to use on your phone
Does not allow you to search based on sexual orientation- so not a good site for those who aren’t straight

Overall I would recommend this site, but if you are looking for a more thorough match system this site has not developed one yet. It is a good site to meet a lot of people.